The Cut Off

I had to cut some people off ’cause they was using me. My heart is big, I want to give too much and usually.

My mom describes me in three words: simple and kind. The third is naive. To put this in a less negatively connotated way, let’s call it innocent. I always see the good in people until proven otherwise. I always give people the benefit of the doubt. This sometimes let people take advantage of my kindness and has bitten me in the butt a few times.

I’ve spent the last four months in San Francisco and it’s been truly enlightening. It allowed me to deeply reflect, and I never saw the results until I got back to Chicago. I went on this journey looking for answers and ended up with more questions. What I did find, however, was an affirmation of the most important pillars of my life; faith & family.

Faith

One of my friends asked me a question on Twitter last week that I would like to explore more in-depth.

I’m motivated because of my journey, and my journey keeps me motivated. In order for this to happen, I had to cut off fear. Fear is the enemy of progress. There’s no way we’ll be able to accomplish the things we want if we let fear rule our lives.

How do we cut off fear? By exercising our faith. According to Hebrews 11:1, Faith is the substance of things hoped for, the evidence of things not seen. Verse 3 states that through faith, we understand the worlds were framed by the word of God so that things which are seen were not made of things which do appear.

Fear is a mind killer. It is the little evil that disintegrates me from the inside out. I must learn to face it, and control it. Fear

~Unknown

Family 

Blood makes you related, loyalty makes you family. As I’ve journeyed through life, I’ve noticed that the ones close to me realize the importance isolation was for my elevation. The “crab in a bucket” mentality usually occurs in groups, pulling the other down. The anthesis of this is the “lift as you climb”.

My family has been lifting me up as they climbed life, specifically my parents. Granted, their climb wasn’t the easiest, but it’s given me a starting point higher up on the ladder than I could ever be thankful for. This allowed me to get to the University of Illinois, where I found an extended family.

All of us challenge each other to do better. More importantly, the loyalty established between this group of people gives us a sense of security. If I fail in my own journey, there will be a group of people willing and able to allow me to join theirs. I’ve invited many people to take this walk with me, and the feedback has been phenomenal.

If you want to go fast, go alone.

If you want to go far, GO TOGETHER.

~African Provern

It is crucial to figure out who you want to go along with you on the journey. Faith and family are all you really need. Faith is simply believing in things that are not as if they are. And family are the ones most loyal to you, not the ones associated with you by birth.

My heart is still big, but it belongs to God first, and my family second. Same goes for my time and any other valuable resource I possess. The moment you realize that nothing really belongs to you and that it’s not permanent, you’ll focus on what’s important. It took me a while to realize this, but it’s truly the most liberating feeling.

Cut off things that take you away from your walk in faith, and that separates you from your family. I promise you you’ll feel a peace like no other.

About the Author O.K. Arowolaju

Youth Minister, Product Manager

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