Friendship is Essential to the Soul
The motto of my beloved fraternity, Omega Psi Phi Fraternity, Inc., has had a major impact on, and in my life. I’m not here to talk about the frat though, I’m here to talk about the value of friendship.
I believe that friendship is the most important relationship you can form, even before family. How many times do you hear of family members disliking each other? You’re born into a family, but you choose your friends. My dad used to lecture me about friendship all the time.
There are two things he would always tell me that has stuck with me my whole life. The first is to show me your friends and I will tell you who you are. I never understood this until I realized that we choose our friends based on who we feel we belong around. We want to be with people who are like us in all facets. The thing he would tell me is to beware of friends, more than dogs. Let me explain what this means.
Birds of a feather flock together. I see people all the time and say, “that’s them and it doesn’t have anything to do with me”. I disagree, it has everything to do with you. It seems that we truly don’t care about our friends if we allow them to just do anything. Or maybe we don’t care about ourselves and who we’re associated with.
The people you surround yourself with daily are the most influential people in your life. They mold your beliefs, your practices and even your outlook on life. When you surround yourself with a certain kind of energy, it transfers to you. You synchronize with these people and subconsciously become one with them. I’ve noticed that successful people have successful friends and mentors. I don’t think this is by chance.
The second part is to beware of friends, more than dogs. When you see a dog, the first thing you do is to ask the owner if it’s friendly. Why? Because we don’t want to be bitten! We know the owner knows the dog more than anybody, and though it may present itself as docile, it may in fact be dangerous.
We can’t do that with our friends, though. When you meet someone for the first time, we can’t ask their parents if they’re a good friend or not. We take that risk and hope that they are who they say they are. In time, you will begin to see their true colors.
Friends not on the same path, will grow apart, it’s inevitable.
To some, walking up to a stranger may be nerve wrecking. I talked about this more in my previous blog post, 10 Commandments of Networking . But to be completely honest, every friend I have used to once be a stranger. We always talk about networking when we’re trying to apply to a job, or getting into a university, but it doesn’t always have to be like that. Sometimes you need to network just to get a solid group of people around you, a support circle, friends.
Friendship is something very special to me. In all honesty, my friends have been the one to support me for most of my life. Friendship is something that needs to be cherished more than other terms of endearment. To be a friend is much more than meeting or knowing somebody. It is to trust them, to love and care for them. To protect as well as accept them.
Over the time of my life, I’ve had the best experiences with friendships. They’ve literally uplifted me to where I am today. These people have made such a difference in my life, I feel as if i am a part of theirs. This kind of connection is so strong, that you can go months without speaking, and be reconnected in an instant, as if nothing happened.
If you can’t find a friend, then be one. It’ll be the best thing you’ve done.